This post is the last in a 3 part series about why we face challenges in achieving our New Years Resolutions and how to be successful in accomplishing our goals. (See All Years Resolutions- Part 1 and All Years Resolutions- Part 2). I am a firm believer that we create our own obstacles to growth but that that we can overcome them and live an amazing life! Often the difficulty is created by our mind, rather than the task itself.
During any time of reflection we tend to look at all the “mistakes” we made. This brings up many different emotions such as not feeling capable of improving our lives or regrets as to why we let some things get to the point that they have. This is natural. If we did not have these feelings, we would not think about making any changes. It’s very important to allow ourselves to feel the emotions, but to not get stuck dwelling in regret and become angry or depressed. We tend to avoid uncomfortable feelings and repress them only for them to come up again. These negative emotions lead to us avoiding making positive changes or having the clarity to find solutions.
“Embrace that your perfection lies in the fact that you are imperfect.”
Another way we become stuck in our bad habits is by focusing on an issue and making it an even bigger issue. If you feel pressure from yourself, monitor your self- talk. Anytime you feel you have to/need to/should do something, you will likely feel resistance to it. Often wanting to change something prevents us from taking steps to change. Let go of wanting to change and start changing, NOW. Here are a few other ways we may subconsciously be sabotaging our path to success:
Self-Pity: It’s important to accept that we are responsible for our lives, so this means accepting our part in whatever we have gotten ourselves into (nobody forces us to eat unhealthy food or smoke) and to stop blaming others. So if you feel stuck in regret, it’s ok. After letting yourself feel the sadness or regret for a limited period of time, tell yourself, “I made some mistakes, I am human. I accept and forgive myself for what I did in the past. The past is in the past and I am going to pick myself back up and make positive changes.” Remember, life is filled with negatives and positives and without mistakes and failures we would not learn for the better. If we can accept that fact, life will be a lot easier.
Not wanting to change: Many people want different things but feel resistance to changes. We like easy and comfortable, but remember, insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. Change takes effort. It means stepping out of our comfort zone. Changes are only difficult if we think they will be. In order to make room for the new in our lives, we need to let go of the old. This may mean letting go of old household items, old habits, old ways of thinking, or even relationships with certain people; things we hold on to even though they are the very things that create the unhappiness we feel.
Fear of failure: Fears are self-fulfilling prophecies. If you never try, how will you know? And what happens if you do not achieve your goals? Life will go on. Learn from the experience and try again with a different approach. Remember we all make mistakes. Look at “mistakes” as learning experiences, not failures.
If you get off track, don’t be hard on yourself. Chances are you have given up and look at where it has gotten you. Pick yourself back up and try again. Never give up on yourself. You are worthy of living a happy and healthy life.
Avoid thinking that you can’t either. How will you know if you don’t try? If you have tried and could not, try changing your approach. It took Thomas Edison several times before he invented the light bulb, but imagine if he stopped trying because he didn’t think he could?
The time to start making changes to benefit your life is NOW. More posts to come on how to lose weight successfully but until then…..
ALWAYS REMEMBER THE FOLLOWING:
1. You are human
2. You (and all human beings) make mistakes and are not perfect
3. Embrace that your perfection lies in the fact that you are imperfect
4. You are worthy of a happy and healthy life
5. Make positive changes while realizing all of the above and you will start seeing some beautiful things in your life!